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The Real World: Jerusalem (Part One)

Okay, time to fess up. How many of you have a weakness for reality TV?

Don’t be shy, you’re in the safe zone here.

I don’t watch a lot of reality TV, however anytime I do, I get sucked in.

Before long, I’ve watched three hours worth of their weekend marathon and just have to find out what happens to the housewife or who the batchelorette chooses.

Total time suck.

What is it about reality TV that causes us to devour every morsel?

There’s lots of reasons, but I would posit one is definitely the drama.

Because, let’s face it, we all have some degree of family drama.

If reality TV would have been available back in King David’s day, you can bet his show would have been a smash hit.

Can you imagine the ratings!? I mean, handsome boy defeats giant, runs from the King, and then becomes King.

Then when you factor in the series of events after being anointed ruler of Israel, networks would be fighting to air this juicy drama.

But this was certainly no enhanced or embellished reality show (because seriously, most of them are a little scripted).

It was real life.

No prompts or suggested scripts.

The truth is, while God’s hand was on David, he still experienced his fair share of family drama.

And that’s putting it lightly.

That’s where we begin today.

If you have a few minutes check out 2 Samuel chapters 13-18. If not, I’ve recapped a portion below.

Today’s post is a two parter. Today I want to camp out in one of those made-for-TV moments and give you some background.

Next week, I want to share some thoughts from my heart about lessons we can learn from this ancient family and their drama.

So let’s get going with that recap.

Without diving deeper, it’s good for you to know David had multiple wives and lots of children.

One of David’s daughters, Tamar, was especially beautiful. She was unmarried and proudly wore a colorful and beautiful robe, allowed only for the king’s virgin daughters. 

David’s son Amnon was in love with her, his half sister.  Instead of asking for permission to marry her, he devised a plan to trick and rape her. The story is in 2 Samuel 13, and it hurts my heart for Tamar anytime I read it.

When Tamar’s brother Absalom learned what happened, he burned with anger. Yet he told her not to “take this thing to heart” and not to say anything. Um, gee thanks. What sensitive and thoughtful advice.

Tamar lived out the rest of her days unmarried and in Absalom’s care.

David was infuriated too, but that’s all we glean from the scriptures.  We see no real action to properly address what happened.

Instead, it gets swept under the rug. The bitterness and rage went unaddressed.

And festered.

And grew.

For two whole years.

Around this time, Absalom decided to avenge his sister’s rape. After convincing his father to allow all his sons visit Absalom, he orchestrated the murder of his brother Amnon.

Realizing he would be a wanted man, he immediately fled.

So you’ve got King David, his beautiful daughter forever bearing the scars of rape, Amnon murdered at the schemes of his brother Absalom, and Absalom running for his life.

Family drama doesn’t even come close.

You think that’s horrible?

It actually gets worse.

Roll the tape.

Not only did Absalom run, but he also aimed to be king and tried to overthrow David. 

Real life.

He turned one of his father’s trusted advisors against him, and did despicable things to shame his family. Girls, it got ugly and ended tragically.

However, I want to back up a second and talk about a moment of stillness for these two men.

Somewhere in between Amnon’s murder and trying to take over the kingdom, there was a short pause when David and Absalom were reunited face to face.

Through a series of events you can read about in chapter 14, David brought Absalom back to Jerusalem.

I want to share a verse that prompted the return and tie it into what it meant for David, and what it means for us.

However, I feel this reality TV hour is getting a little lengthy as it is.

For that reason, I decided to table that discussion for next week (ooh! Just like a real TV series. You just got a teaser. smile ).

That way we can take everything in this week, and be thinking about this verse next week.

However, I want to leave you with the verse this week so hopefully it’s on your mind when we come together next Friday.

When petitioned to bring his son back (which is an episode in itself), an old woman tells David,

“For we will surely die and become like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again. Yet God does not take away a life; but He devises means, so that His banished ones are not expelled from Him” (‭II Samuel‬ ‭14‬:‭14‬ NKJV).

This verse was all part of a larger speech to petition for Absalom’s return.

However, I can’t help but feel a huge lesson is present in this verse, both in the very moment it was said, but also now.


Take this story, and especially this verse, to heart this week. Think about what it meant in the original context, but also think about it’s application today.

So that’s my challenge for the week. Think on it. Next friday I’ll be back to give you some of my own reflections, and look forward to your insights too!

More to come.


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