The B Love Life

The Break-Up

Being an older sister is hard sometimes.

As I’ve mentioned before, I have this “motherly” thing with P. I feel like I need to be the tracking bracelet harnassed to her ankle, you know, just to make sure she’s okay. I feel like part of me is part of her (ha ha, I guess technically it is if you want to get into genes and all that stuff).

That’s why I almost had a breakdown over dinner Thursday night.

We were enjoying a lovely evening, when all of a sudden my mom looks down the table at Z and says, “You know, things just aren’t going to be the same when you’re gone!”

WHAT!?

My pulse quickens.

I start breathing faster.

Sweat? Yes, sweat.

“What do you mean?” I asked.

My mom them turned to me and said, “Oh- Z is leaving Saturday morning to go to London.”

Guys- I almost cried right there in my steak.

But then I realized it would be a pity to waste such a good steak- so I held it together.

Can I simply say I felt like Z was breaking up with me over dinner!? I had flashbacks to my junior year when I was on the phone with my boyfriend droning on about German class and he got all quiet. Then the “mutal break-up” ensued (I have no idea why… it couldn’t have anything to do with boring German class talk, right?? Nah.) This couldn’t be happening again right? My sister was jovial and fine, and here I am in utter shock that Z was “breaking up with me.”

He and P are staying together, but he left because he starts college this fall. I knew it was coming, but I was surprised it was so soon. A few weeks ago when I asked he didn’t know, but then bam! I get the break-up news over a wonderful family dinner.

The only thing missing was the infamous, “We need to talk...” line.

So, Z and I are “breaking up.”

I guess it’s true when they say families get attached to the boyfriends too. Who would have thought!? I really like him and P together, and knowing he’s a million miles away makes me sad for her, even if they are still together.

I actually got a lump in my throat yesterday morning when he sent me a text message bidding farewell. I felt so bad for P and it made my heart hurt. Let’s hope Christmas break comes soon for their sake. I told my sister the message made me sad and she totally played the role of the older sister, telling me everything was going to be fine, blah, blah, blah.

Did I mention it seemed like I was the one getting dumped???

Young love is the pits sometimes, huh?

So, I guess you could say I’m surviving my first “sister boyfriend breakup.” I thought break-ups were over! Apparently, I’m going to be experiencing them for quite a while. Self-inflicted supportive heart break… I’m such a good sister, aren’t I?

And she and Z are still together! Imagine what a mess I’ll be during a real break up!

Lord help us all.

Excuse me, I need to get back to my Ben and Jerry’s, tissue box, and 10 Things I Hate About You.

Did I mention I’m taking this hard?

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7.21.2007

I think you have the perfect way to cope with it...10 things I hate about you and Ben & Jerry’s are the perfect heartbreak companions.

Posted by jenn on 07/21 at 10:08 PM

Aww...I’m sorry that Z is leaving you all. It must be tough--there’s only a handful of people that you know there, and you’re either related to or work with most of them. It was really sweet of him to send you a message saying goodbye, and it’s kinda sweet that P comforted you

Posted by Ann M. on 07/21 at 10:16 PM

Who did you date in 11th grade? For some reason nothing is registering with me...but that’s totally cute how you’re attached to Z. It’s like when my family found out I was dating Aaron and that Jeremy and I wouldn’t be getting married...even though Jerm is still my best friend ever and is around in the same manner as he always was, it was a little heartbreaking for them...lol

Posted by Jacqueline on 07/22 at 05:57 AM

How sad for P and Z. You are such a good sister to be so heartbroken for her! I would be the same way I’m sure for my sister. It’ll be ok though. Keep your chin up! :D

Posted by on 07/22 at 12:10 PM

It was very similar for me when my sister Megan broke up with her boyfriend of like, forever… 3 or 4 years, I think it was… all through HS. We all took it hard. We thought they’d be 2gether, 4ever.

Posted by Annie on 07/23 at 06:51 AM

You and I have talked about this some already. It’s hard being the older sister and constantly feeling like you have to be there to help them up. Your P sounds a lot like my Jessie; they’re strong girls - probably stronger than I was (am). We carry their burdens and our hearts hurt too, I’ve been there. What’s even worse is when you watch your little sister in a relationship that isn’t healthy or fulfilling, and there’s nothing you can do. That’s horrible, and that’s what I have now. I wish for a break-up and for her to find someone that treats her like a Princess. I hope P and Z do well during this time apart, in fact it may be quite healthy. I hope you take this easier as the days go by… I totally get it!!

Posted by Jenny on 07/23 at 10:31 AM

This made me laugh and yet I know exactly what you’re talking about. I was the g/f breaking up with the stupid cheating boy and I missed his mom and dad SO much, I used to cry after I’d leave their house (visiting them after we had broken up). He was a “big” boy and had moved out on his own with the new g/f when we split up and I used to visit them until it just got too hard for both parties. His mom would cry, then I ‘d cry and I felt bad for making things so hard so eventually I stopped visitng and returning phone calls. . . .it’s very emotional when you get attached to someone.

Posted by Beth G on 07/23 at 12:03 PM

Oh geez, this is hard! I feel really bad for P and Z. It really stinks to be long distance and I know their hearts are probably breaking.

Oh, and yours! Haha - you’re such a good big sis Brittny. I’ve missed you lately. Sorry I’ve been stuck with my head in the sand.

I’ve got news. It’s dog news. But we don’t have another dog. Not yet. Can you think of it?

If you guessed we’re getting a dog for Evie, then you’re right!

Posted by on 07/24 at 12:22 PM